In today’s QT, Rehoboam who just became king after Solomon asks elders for advice when the whole assembly of Israel asked him to reduce their burden and harsh labor. He decides to take 3 days to think about it, and when he went to the elders as well as the young men who grew up with him for advice. The elders told him to give them a favorable answer, and the young men told him to make their burden even heavier.
I don’t really believe in giving or receiving advice from people. I wish I could take good advice, but it’s similar difficulty as when I decided to believe in Jesus. I feel like good advices are going to be good for me, and I just don’t know for sure. For one, not all the advices I have received have turned out to be good. My general feeling for the ratio of good advice to bad advice is pretty low. So, I know I have to filter some out. Then the good advice, I don’t know that they’re good advice, until some time passes. I gain respect for whoever gave me good advice, but usually, I didn’t take the advice. It might have something to do with learning. Trial and error. It’s painful and time-consuming, but the good advices don’t make sense to me, and until I’ve felt the pain of failures down other paths. Since they don’t make sense to me at the time they’re given to me, they’re not useful to me. This is also why I refrain from giving any advice. One good thing about this way is that I know for sure that I’ve lived my life in a way that I’m responsible for my decisions. Some decisions results in good things, some decisions in bad, but this is short-term good and bad. There’s no telling which is good and bad in the long-run. What’s good is that I can take some comfort in knowing that I can’t blame anyone for my life. Recently though, I’ve been keen to take advice for my brothers and sisters of good faith in Christ. Maybe I’m getting older, and I feel like I don’t have as much time to go through failures and learn for myself, or finally becoming a little wiser. Or perhaps not. I cannot know. The advices in the Word is good though. They’ve been helping me concretely since I started believing. My life is now not just responsible by me, but also by the Word. I wish my life was fully responsible by the Word, but I lack so many ways for me to be able to make such a claim.
Today is my 31st birthday. I have mixed feelings about this. I don’t know what to make of this age. Overwhelmingly uncomfortable sense that I should be with someone who I want to marry, or have married. Past year went by so quickly. It’s scary how fast it went by, and I don’t like it because I feel like I have less and less time to do all that I want to do. Maybe it’s just me being silly. This is possibly the start of the prime time of my life. I’ve had some tough ones, real though ones in my twenties, and things have been much better past couple of years. So hopefully, it is the start of the prime time of my life :) I need to have more faith in the goodness of the LORD.
Application: have a good birthday